a child came out to wonder
What happens while you were making other plans
Adios to a grandfather and a grand-daughter who never met
Barbwire by Andrew Barbáno / Expanded from the 8-30-2017 Sparks Tribune / Updated 8-31-2017 and 9-6-2017 / Expansions in blue
Grandpa Reno: When
his wife died a year or so ago, comedian/actor Patton Oswalt
[Agents of SHIELD] finally gave me the words for what I went
thru when your mother Betty
died and what you endure now: a "numb
slog." The words themselves are so clumsy, ugly
and difficult to say that I have trouble remembering them. Great if
dark anti-poetry, indeed. Now I can finally feel a bit of what your
mom felt on that awful 1978 Saturday when we were informed that your
was lost. Betty exhaled a soul-wrenching sigh, then "She was
so perfect!" Like Zorba, it was a simultaneous complaint
and question to God. Gotta hunch you've been there.
old man. Change of plans.
I had intended this
entire screed to memorialize your enlightened journalistic cantankerousness,
including a potshot about Civil
War re-enactors stepping on this weekend's Virginia City Labor Day weekend.
Then again, your adios soirée this Saturday steps on their veneration of the contemptible Confederacy, proving that you still retain power even after your passing.
I know you didn't much believe in this kind of stuff, but if the electricity that was once Professor Highton remains available, I have some work for you, dear friend.
A beautiful young lady named Tara Danielle Donlevy died last Saturday at a Phoenix, Ariz., hospital.
She was ironically admitted on my birthday last month.
She was recovering when complications of heart surgery called her number at 21.
As father to three daughters, you could identify with what her parents now endure.
Please look after their girl.
The grief of Zorba the Greek rings heavy in my head.
In his greatest film role, Anthony Quinn cried "Why do the young die? Why does anybody die?"
Zorba's uptight English colleague played by Alan Bates responds "I don't know."
Alexis Zorba: "What's the use of all your damn books if they can't answer that?"
Basil: "They tell me about the agony of men who can't answer questions like yours."
Zorba: "I spit on this agony!"
My first and last wife, Betty, made me a grandfather the day we married.
I saw her thru the death
of her firstborn at age 19, a
victim of rural Nevada medical malpractice after an auto accident.
When Tara was six or seven, Betty's number two son, another Andrew, took his family to his sister Debbie's Carson City grave.
When they returned to
our house, little Tara asked her grandma to "bring her up. If I can
hold her I can bring her back to life."
Her mother Tiffany said "she's always been like that."
Based on that sliver of a moment, I always thought she'd grow up to be a doctor or similar healer.
Perhaps she was in some fashion.
Alas, she could not heal herself.
You would have liked
And so here we remain.
As Nikos Kazantzakis channeled Zorba: "When my little boy Dimitri died...and everybody was crying...me, I got up and I danced.
"They said, 'Zorba
is mad.' But it was the dancing only the dancing that stopped the
So maybe we should all dance as best we can, when we can, every chance we can.
Even should it revive old aches and pains, it will remind us that we are alive, that we have lived well, and once felt shining reflections of love.
THE PRICE OF PASSAGE. My number 2 son Andrew Donlevy thanks all of those who have contributed to Tara's GoFundMe page to help with her final expenses.
You may also mail checks payable to Andrew Donlevy, 1480 E. Pecos Rd. #3025, Gilbert AZ 85295.
"The celebration of her life will be Saturday, September 9, at 3:00 p.m.," Andrew D. said.
"We have not selected a venue yet. We are measuring rsvp's.
"We have the chapel at the funeral home on hold and the club house at an aparment complex as well.
"It will be a happy time where people can share memories of Tara.
"There will be refreshments and (Tara's sister) Lauren's friend, who won last season's Cake Wars on Food Network, will be making a cake just for Tara," added Dear Old Dad.
Stay tuned for more info as it arrives.
Andrews thank you so very much.
Fade to black
SATURDAY SEPT. 2: Matriculate to an appreciation and adios for UNR journalism legend, eternal Sparks Tribune columnist and Barbwire Molly Ivins Memorial Columniator Hall of Flames Laureate Jake Highton (1931-2017).
It will appropriately
happen for the pro-union professor on Labor
Day weekend at 3:00 p.m. September 2 in the UNR library rotunda. (Bureaucrats
call it a "knowledge center.") The great George Carlin
warned about adding syllables and subtracting meaning. Profs. Highton and
E.B. White would certainly concur.
Maybe we'll dance like Zorba said.
Be well. Raise hell. / Esté bien. Haga infierno. (Pardon my Spanglish.)
Barbano is a 48-year Nevadan, chair of the Nevada César Chávez
Committee, producer of Nevada's annual
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and political action chair of the Reno-Sparks
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